Sunday, September 11, 2011

Part 3/3: What comes next...

Alright, what is next for Aly&Ash? Well first off a hopefully seamless transfer to Wordpress (I'm so over the blogger issues!) and back to posting! I'm so excited to share some new projects and recipes and I will also be introducing a new Aly&Ash contributor later this week! And i will finally post the beauty segments I photographed months ago! (I'm such a slacker!!)

But what I'm most excited about is Momographer Mondays! Photography tips, tricks and tutorials along with a theme and link party/contest! Post an image in accordance to the theme on your own blog and then link it up! (You can post to your blog any day of the week just link it up on Monday!) This is in no way directed toward professional photographers only - thus the name! I want all you blogging mom's out there to learn some new tricks and have fun with photography! You will have all week to link up and the contest will close each Friday night. Over the weekend  Liberty Elle and I will review the images and select three winners! Winners will be announced each Monday with the start of the next competition! Winners will get a swanky blog button to show off your mad skills and the 1st place winning image with blog name & link will be posted on my sidebar for the entire week! Are you excited yet cause I am! We will start next Monday (September 19th) and the first theme will be Black & White. A complete list of themes for the rest of the year will be posted soon so you can plan ahead!

If you have theme suggestions please leave them in the comments!!! I look forward to seeing your images next week and can't wait to get started! Stay tuned later this week to meet the new Aly&Ash contributer and I have a delicious BBQ Chicken Pizza recipe for ya!!! Hope everyone has a great week!

Thursday, September 1, 2011

Update part 2/3: Holland

When you're going to have a baby, it's like planning a fabulous vacation trip - to Italy.  You buy a bunch of guide books and make your wonderful plans. The Coliseum.  The Michelangelo David.  The gondolas in Venice.  You may learn some handy phrases in Italian.  It's all very exciting.

After months of eager anticipation, the day finally arrives.  You pack your bags and off you go.  Several hours later, the plane lands. The stewardess comes in and says, "Welcome to Holland."

"Holland?!?" you say. "What do you mean Holland?? I signed up for Italy!  I'm supposed to be in Italy.  All my life I've dreamed of going to Italy."

But there's been a change in the flight plan.  They've landed in Holland and there you must stay.

The important thing is that they haven't taken you to a horrible, disgusting, filthy place, full of pestilence, famine and disease.  It's just a different place.

So you must go out and buy new guide books. And you must learn a whole new language.  And you will meet a whole new group of people you would never have met.

It’s just a different place.  It's slower-paced than Italy, less flashy than Italy.  But after you've been there for a while and you catch your breath, you look around.... and you begin to notice that Holland has windmills....and Holland has tulips.  Holland even has Rembrandts.

But everyone you know is busy coming and going from Italy... and they're all bragging about what a wonderful time they had there.  And for the rest of your life, you will say "Yes, that's where I was supposed to go. That's what I had planned."

And the pain of that will never, ever, ever, ever  go away... because the loss of that dream is a very very significant loss.

But... if you spend your life mourning the fact that you didn't get to Italy, you may never be free to enjoy the very special, the very lovely things ... about Holland.
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©1987 by Emily Perl Kingsley.


July of this year our son Asher was diagnosed Autistic. It was at his 18 month check up that his pediatrician recommended we have him screened at the Melmed Center here in Arizona.  I have two amazing nephews with Autism so when I heard the words Melmed Center I knew the direction this was headed. I am not going to lie, I love my nephews so much and wouldn't change a thing about them, but there is nothing worse than hearing those words. I cried for a couple days - trading between anger, depression, relief, uncertainty. All I wanted to do was hold Asher and tell him over and over how much I loved him. Lucky for me, Asher is a snuggler! Autism being a spectrum disorder every kid is different. The social and developmental delays associated vary in severity but where he is completely on track in some areas he is severely delayed in others. It's been really eye opening to see Griffin pass him up in some developmental areas. Asher is still not talking, no mama, no dada. But he does make sounds. He has a wide variety of sounds, some quite hilarious! We have also learned that his beloved Yo Gabba Gabba is a comfort mechanism for Asher. Watching the show lets him kind of create this tunnel vision type bubble allowing him to block out things that may be overwhelming him. We are just beginning his therapies so we don't know the extent of his sensory issues but we're working on it! So far he goes to Occupational Therapy once a week and will start speech soon. So far he is adjusting to OT very well and making progress faster than I had even hoped for! Asher also qualifies for a home worker and we will be arranging that soon too. We are taking it step by step, day by day and doing the best we can. We plan to be very proactive in combating this disorder. I want living with Autism to be as easy as possible for Asher. I want to give him every possible tool I can. 

So that is update #2. That's what we're dealing with over here in the Avery house. I'll be posting updates on here every once and a while and would love to hear from any mom's out there going through the same or similar. We love our little boy so much and know that even though this is not the journey we planned on we  will embrace it. I also know there is still a lot of hard days ahead. I often find myself in moments of weakness where I get angry or sad at the hand he's been dealt and know those days will come and go and I'll just do the best I can. At this point, it's really all I can do.